Imagine yourself walking into a large private party.

But not any private party. This one feels... different.

As you walk in the door, you notice how well both men and women are dressed, how good, how open, how sexy they look and feel. As you step deeper, the atmosphere gets warmer, the decor, the lighting is.. richer, more intimate, more vibrant. Here a woman is kissing another woman. Here a group of old and new friends are smiling at each other while caressing and nibbling faces, necks, arms and backs. The evening has barely begun, and already people are getting to know each other in fun, creative and sensual ways. The cocktail part of the evening is in full swing. You nervous system feels safe and open with these friendly humans. And soon enough, everyone is here and the doors close as the guests gather into the main room and dance floor, to connect with each other in ceremony and ritual, to co-create a night of exploration of intimacy, relationship, sensuality and sexuality. A night where your every dream can become reality. Where sensuous gaze and delicious touch mingle to awaken your deepest desires.

This is your world, the world of Club Exotica.

A Playful Party is a fun underground typically larger private dance event—with bassy, seductive, enchanting and, dreamy music to move your body with your lower chakras and heart—and where all types of connections—from great conversations to sensual and even sexy play is allowed. No one is obligated to do anything in particular, however all are requested and encouraged to co-create a space of openness, a space of "yes", a space of respect and support. In that space, you are asked to co-create an abundance of freedom of expression and permission, so you can be, do, desire, enjoy, and sensually play as you wish it, when you wish it—with yourself, another person, or group of people who want to do exactly the same thing.

An Playful Party is also a place to contribute your gifts and learn to connect with those you are attracted to (and even those you aren't), push your (and others) edges and boundaries, and a place to practice saying "no, but..." or "yes, and..." as you interact with others creatively! Remember to always read cues to feel out other people's interests: ASK before you touch, ASK before you stare, and always answer a request with an opportunity to engage in some other way. For example: a man asks a woman if he can kiss her. She says, smiling "no, but you can feed me a piece of chocolate". Be responsible for your own desires and fully own what you choose to say yes or no to. And remember: if you are not sure how to answer a request, make it a generous and compassionate "no"—until you are a full "yes", that is!

Playful Parties can either/both be spiritual or fun/playful events, and they most often incorporate some sort of storyline or characters that guests can impersonate, which we find can be very helpful in allowing for a more powerful or deeper experience.

If you find yourself wanting to "get" something from the party—rather than contributing and receiving in response to that contribution, or if you don't like playing with boundaries (stretching them, holding them, sharing them, especially in a sensual/sexual context)—then this party is probably not for you. Also, even though the lineup for a specific party might be totally awesome and you may just want to dance, you have to expect that this is the sort of party where you will be approached by people wanting to connect at sensual/sexual level (which might look like getting flirted with, hit on, appreciated, complimented, offered kisses, massage, etc). And while we find that people tend to be pretty good with their offerings and requests, there are definitely occasions where it's obvious they are still learning along with some awkwardness or lack of attunement. In those cases, generosity, compassion and respect are always encouraged. Playful parties are a space of co-creation and learning, and we are all figuring out how to best do this together!

All in all, Playful Parties are definitely not for everyone. For that reason, participating as a guest usually involves an RSVP process where you will share about yourself and how you are connected to the community, allowing us to get to know you a little bit and helping us create the best event by having exactly the right people present. One question we always ask is "How playful are you? Why should we invite you to our event?". By "playful", we don't mean in the classic sexy societal way. Rather we mean "how empowered are you in your ability to open to others and be playful, to turn others and yourself on".

Playful Parties are for people who:

⭐ Have a hot, playful, and juicy personality

⭐ Are community-oriented and love contributing

⭐ Are clear, honest, open, and good communicators

⭐ Are a continuous yes in finding the bests ways to interact with others

⭐ Love to dress up!

If you're not absolutely sure if you would be a good match for our event, please reach out via Text/WhatsApp +1415-505-0786 or email us clubexotica@gmail.com and we'll be delighted to help you figure that out.

For more details about how we play together as a community, see the Agreements for Playful Parties below.

Solo Men at Our Events

At Club Exotica, we love our solo men just as much as we love any of our other solo humans and couples. We also recognize that other solo humans do want to meet solo men and not just a man who is with someone else as a couple....

We're definitely NOT a swingers crowd (which is generally FOCUSED on bisexual women and couples).

It's obvious when you attend our events: there's about as many men as there are other humans (or slightly more men). We don't require men to come with a gender-balance as is often done in other events. Instead, we balance the composition of our group on our end and would rather focus on the level of commitment we require of the people who come to out events. As such, we generally ask our solo men to rise up to a higher standard than the rest of our guests. Partly, this is so that we are able to pick the really awesome solo men who are willing to work just a bit harder than the others to make it to our events. We do this by asking the men to show us what they will be contributing to our events (instead of coming to "get" something) and we also often request that they ask a current or past lover to write a letter of recommendation about them.

Click here for additional details about this.

The night of a Club Exotica event you will join a select group of amazing sexy people of all genders and of many ages for a night of celebration, passion, bliss, and delight inspired by stories and myths created from the pure strands of our imagination. The night will be like a menu from which you can choose—a la carte—as few or as many items as you please. You will find a multitude of things to desire and much to fulfill you. And, while some of the menu will thrill you, some may not interest you at all. Our events are designed that way. In it, you will be allowed to explore and grow. You will be allowed to play and discover. You will allowed to be hot, sexy, powerful, grand, handsome, beautiful, and gorgeous. You will be allowed to express yourself—respectfully—in any way you want. This is a space of permission, caring, respect and FUN.

It is a space of CO-CREATION.

The vision of Club Exotica is to create wondrous exotic spaces and environments to explore intimacy, relationships, sensuality, and sexuality. We do this by finding amazing venues, wonderful and rich themes, amazing performers and music, and putting them together to create a tableau where fantasies can become reality. Thus, we create the space for the most important ingredient of the event to enter and flourish.

This element is YOU, our guests!

By coming to our event, you become part of the story, part of the dream, part of Club Exotica. But that's not all. Your mere presence, while great in and of itself, requires something more.

It requires your COMMITMENT.

In other words, your presence at our event is an agreement to step powerfully—with us—into the story we create together! By reading this agreement completely, and saying YES to each aspect of the event that we create, and knowing that you are in alignment with all that this event is about, you will experience having an INCREDIBLE TIME.

The more committed you are, the more GORGEOUS and the more ATTRACTIVE you will feel.

You will know everything, feel everything, as part of the celebration. You will be able to approach with the right words, the right gaze, the right body language. And this will make you a person or a couple that others want to connect with to have a wonderful time.

Your commitment will give you CONFIDENCE, STRENGTH and OPENNESS.

Ready to jump in? We certainly are. The story begins from the moment you read the invitation to the event, to RSVP'ing and answering carefully all that we ask, to purchasing your ticket. But that's not all. Eventually, you will be asked to fully become part of the story, to write the next chapter, to become part of..

A dream.

Take a minute to ask yourself...

"What will I bring to this celebration?"

"How will I bring my desires and personally manifest them for myself and all to enjoy?"

"If I am coming to this event with a beloved one, how will we agree to play together or alone so as to celebrate and honor ourselves and our relationship?"

The Agreements for Playful Parties

Why do we do this? We find that by making sure everyone agrees to co-create the event in the same ways, we end up with an event that is sexier, hotter, more fun and more safe for everyone! Please take a moment to review the agreements here and make sure you're a "hell yes". Your signature will be required when you RSVP, and when you order tickets or when you enter the event!

Ready? Repeat after us...

"I agree to..."

1. Come With a Playful Sexy Costume and Character!

Sexy, playful, seductive, and alluring... any piece of clothing in your closet or in your ability to imagine that makes you feel confident, sensual, and aroused. For your costume to qualify, it has to be amazing enough that it would attract attention if you wore it on the street. As for the role, it should match the theme and your costume so as to enhance your experience and the experience of others.

Click here for more ideas on what to wear!

2. Connect Well with Others!

This means connecting with people I don't know or people I am not usually attracted to. This means getting to know people, their boundaries, their attractions, their desires, and finding ways to give them the experience they want.

3. NOT Take Photos!

Photos are not allowed at our event. We may have professional photographers who will be taking photos of people with the express permission of the guests. Later on, they will post them on a secret site for all them to see.

4. Manage My Level of Intoxication!

This means I won't get too intoxicated in any way, or else I may not be invited for later events.

5. Be Respectful and Generous with My Touch!

Respect is required for ALL touch (as well as ALL interactions). This means connecting with people before touching and responding clearly (with a “yes”, “no”, “yes, but...”, “no, but...”) to any touch offered. Also, explicit consent is required for all touch involving genitals and nipples

6. Be a Yes to What Works for Me!

This means I can say Yes or No whenever I like. This also means being ok with anyone saying Yes or No in response to any invitations you may make. This means making agreements and/or checking in with my lover(s)/partner(s)/date(s) before and during the event. This also means facilitating what is most appropriate at any given time for me and others so they have a great time. This means being a YES to what works for me, and a YES to what works for others. This means playing well with others. This means showing up at the event and intending to PLAY (in a sexy way, which of course doesn't mean "sexual")!

7. Exercise My Right to Say No (Politely)!

This means saying "no" in a way that is open and generous, and allows for another possible offering. For example, if someone offers a massage, I can say, “No, but you can feed me a chocolate!” The point is to create a fun/playful interaction that works for everyone. This also means getting involved with conscious, deliberate and clear intentions. If I are not sure, it's okay for me to sit back and wait. Or, if I am already involved with someone, this means calling things off clearly and respectfully if it's time for me to stop.

8. Contribute!

Our events are co-created pieces of temporary social art. This means that I bring the things I want and need to the events, so I feel great! It also means that I share them with others so they experience how great they are, too! These can be anything from massage hands, to chocolates, to soft furs, to games, to a great costume, or anything other gifts or ideas for interacting with people, allowing me to connect with them even more easily.

9. Have Safer-Sex Conversations With Anyone I Play With Sexually!

This means having safe-sex conversations, practice safe sex and use safe sex supplies when engaging in fluid sharing play (there will be some available at the event in strategic places). This means stopping for a moment to have that conversation, even if it might be uncomfortable and even if it might kill the moment.

10. Ask for Feedback!

I will offer care/consideration towards others I engaged with at the event, and also welcome feedback. This is a two way engagement where feedback about what happened is both offered and requested. "Would you be willing to share together about our engagement?", "What went well in our engagement(s)?", "What didn't go so well?", "What could I/we do (even) better/different (looking back or next time)?". This is how we learn to do better with each other using a learning, care and growth mindset.

11. Engage in Repair if Needed

If something happens at our event didn't feel good, comfortable, or right (to myself or someone else), I will at least be willing to find a way to support a movement towards a clearing and repair process, and get support if needed. If nothing else, I will let the producers or CARE team know so that they can offer support to anyone who needs it.

12. Collaborate!

If I don’t follow these agreements willingly and well enough, I may not be invited again to future Club Exotica, or events by Philippe or Jocelyn. It's in my best interest and the best interest of everyone to support everyone following the spirit (and letter, whenever possible) of these agreements.

About the Agreements

The agreements are the structure that allows everyone to play as safely as possible on the "playground" that each of these events create. Playing on the playground is, however, not inherently safe. By coming to this event you acknowledge that you have fully read the agreements above and that you understand how they work and what they mean and the risks that come with playing with others on this playground (feel free to message Philippe via Text/WhatsApp +14155050786 with any questions).

These events are neither high risk nor low risk. If you are “risk-averse”, this is likely not the right event for you. But if you are somewhat risk tolerant, you’ll find that this space is a great place to play, experiment, and explore.

By coming to these events, you acknowledge that you enter a space where honest accidents and mistakes will be made occasionally, and agree to be willing to offer constructive compassionate feedback to the people you engaged with during the event for the purpose of learning in community with them. If for any reason you feel hurt or harmed by someone's actions, you also agree to at least be willing to let us know and explore a repair and apology process with a neutral third party. But before this happens, we will be happy to receive and validate your experience and offer you a space of care and consideration.